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My daughter - now 25 - was 16 when she was allowed on her first date. And what is "dating" - they already believe that they are girlfriend/boyfriend. At the end of our 8th grade year we did go with friends to see a movie or go to festivals, church events. Too young for a job-too young for a boyfriend and movie dates. Not that she'll immediately get pregnant or something, but she needs to spend her energy and intellect elsewhere for the next couple of years if humanly possible.
Prior to that - again no cell phones - we joined them - discreetly - but we were there. Dating has become less formal, less two-by-two, and more about doing things in groups. That summer we would meet up at the pool on the weekends. Boyfriends are so darn all consuming mentally at that age.
From a former middle school teacher, I say wait until 16! Her parents had been dropping her off at the mall and movies with her boyfriend. She flaked on sitting for us New Year's Eve to be with her boyfriend. Your daughter needs to stay busy and not start paring off on dating things.
I have a former student, now in 8th grade that I found out is having sex with a 7th grade boy. It's doesn't help that other parents allow this which makes it hard to keep the standard age up where it should be-15-16-ish, imo.
She would never admit it, but I think she knows we're not COMPLETELY unreasonable on this one!! Prior to that - I had "boyfriends" and we talked on the phone and went over to each other's houses for homework - doors were ALWAYS open and nothing was done in private. Later there was some kissing and flirting and light making out, but that was towards the end of high school. I had always thought you were a responsible person. Dating while under the eye of parents is the best way to keep things safe.
But the only one I ever had a long term relationship with is my husband. I don't even think my husband was really dating our daughter's mother when he got her pregnant and we don't want something like that to happen to her.
She has older female cousins who are beautiful, smart and great role models for her. There is no reason that a 11-12- or even 15 year old should be dating.
I don't have an exact age for when she will be allowed to solo date, but she already understands (and agrees) that before a young man can so much as take her out for a soda, he will be sitting down and talking with my husband first. My daughter's purity is of the utmost concern to all of us so there will be a conversation before anyone takes my daughter anywhere. At that age it's more about who is seen with whom rather than developing a deep relationship.
she has just hit puberty, 1 of 2 things can happen... Our daughter knows that dating isn't allowed until.....says so! She is the oldest cousin on her dad's side and most of them are boys, so she is very comfortable around boys.
you can take the time out to explain all the risks she is taking now, and try to trust her to a point.... She has always seemed to be more of a tomboy and would rather hang around boys, which still happens at school, but in listening to their conversations that's all they are- friends.
The last thing on a 13 year olds mind is marriage so dating would be out of the question for me - just my 2 cents. 13 year olds are not emotionally prepared for relationships. In our household we see dating as the precurssor to marriage.