Dating new friends
I completely get what you are saying and I haven't been here long so I owe it to myself to give it more time.
But I wouldn't go as far to suggest that making friends is the same everywhere you go.
I am having a bit of difficult time integrating socially however.
The building I lived in still has a great community that is very welcoming and everybody is young and parties. It took me about two years to get friends but it got much better.you're right about the dating.If you don't like it, fix one or both of those.As for dating, I find it hard to believe in this day and age people think going to the bar and trolling for randoms is going to be more fruitful than dating apps, but.... Your post to me reads more about the disconnect between your expectations and reality - meaning, the difference between how easy it is to make friends when you're in situations (school, work, etc) when you are around people quite a bit, and/or they are in a similar situation (wrt needing new friends) and how much effort is required to break into other peoples existing social networks such that you can develop a meaningful relationship with that person.What I'm saying is that its incredibly easy to meet casual acquaintances but it feels near impossible to make meaningful friendships.People seem to hang out with their college friends and have no interest in integrating new people into their friend groups. Girls seem to date almost exclusively within their social circles and at bars the women all travel in huge groups, mostly from college.