Age discrimination online dating
What it really comes down to in the end is compatibility.If a young man and older woman work well together, then great. Despite the ageism that we’re talking about, I do believe that it’s necessary.Was just on CBS Early Show and had a blast, as usual.Julie Chen was super nice and made getting up at am well worth it. Well, it’s morning news, so there’s only so deep you can go.There’s also data to show that as women get older, they’re attracted to older men, whereas with men, as old as they get, they’re still attracted to the same age person as when they were young.Ultimately, everyone is entitled to his or her own preferences.Ageism is like the elephant in the room when it comes to online dating. I have found that 95 percent of my clients over age 50 tell me that the other gender doesn’t age as well as theirs. Although plenty of men out there are looking for someone their own age, and some women think men their own age are too old, it is more often men who are looking for someone younger.In my experience as a coach, people assume that others their own age aren’t as in shape, as financially successful as younger people. But you know, everyone ages, everyone gets wrinkles, everyone has baggage. They have no problem telling me, I want a woman 20 years younger than I am.
One of my oldest friends (not in an age sense; in a friendship-length sense) is female. And I just found out recently that one of her best friends who is our age (35-ish) is married to a guy who is 50-plus.They think someone who’s 60 must not be active, or people who are 70 must not be working — even if they themselves are. For whatever reason, social norms say that the man should be older — but why?It’s frustrating for women when men won’t include a woman up to their own age in their search; a man is 65 and only lists women age 45 to 55. I’m working with a client who is 36 and thinks a 33-year-old is too old for him. It’s a huge double standard, but women are generally more accepting of older bodies in a partner than men are.Perhaps it could be less specific, like an age range, though. I ask them why it’s so important to them to find someone younger, and I try to debunk what they tell me.If the question were omitted, many people would be tempted to use old photos to make people believe they are younger than they are. They might say, well, someone 60 won’t want to climb mountains with me, and I’ll say, What makes you think so?
When asked how old she was, she said “Let’s just say I’m in my sixties”.